معلم اليوجا كان أمام عدة خيارات ، كان بإمكانه الصراخ على الشخص المزعج أو حتى يضربه لعدم احترامه لدوره. أو كان بإمكانه أن يتجاهله تماما ويأخذ نفسا عميقا ويأخذ قهوته ويرحل ، وهنالك الخيار غير المألوف أن يستوعب السلبية ويحولها لشيء ايجابي. فاختار الصعب وغير المألوف فكانت النتيجة خارج نطاق تصور الجميع
Monday, December 31, 2007
لنحاول في 2008
معلم اليوجا كان أمام عدة خيارات ، كان بإمكانه الصراخ على الشخص المزعج أو حتى يضربه لعدم احترامه لدوره. أو كان بإمكانه أن يتجاهله تماما ويأخذ نفسا عميقا ويأخذ قهوته ويرحل ، وهنالك الخيار غير المألوف أن يستوعب السلبية ويحولها لشيء ايجابي. فاختار الصعب وغير المألوف فكانت النتيجة خارج نطاق تصور الجميع
Saturday, December 15, 2007
Jeddah '3aiR !
I bought my “Islamic” Abaya and my headscarves. I carefully selected among my conservative wardrobe the longest and the darkest. I asked my host all the stupid questions I had in mind. I check with everybody who has an experience traveling to KSA. Everybody told me “Jeddah ‘3air” (translation - Jeddah is different) but I refused to believe. My bias overrode all the information I was given.
Well, I have to admit that I was wrong. I had the best of times and I learned in a week enough for a lifetime. Jeddah is different; fun and pleasant, open and modern and most importantly very familiar. It is not very different that Kuwait at all if not better in many ways.
On my last day there I had coffee with a group of young men and women in an open café at the beach. They were all talking openly and respectfully about their concerns and issues. And though they were understandable conscious of political discussions, their social and economical concerns where no different than ours.
They talked about the loss of identity- the blind copying of everything Western- homosexuality, divorce, unemployment, plastic surgeries, power of Islamic extremists, love , marriage, cost of living, parenting challenges ,,, etc.
I always believed that I am free of any form of prejudice and biases. But this experience has shown me how easy it is to fall into the stereotypes and narrow-mindedness despite your best efforts.
Unless you force yourself to get out of your comfort zone and retest your assumptions and notions you will become the bigot you see in others.
My Question: when was the last time you tested your assumptions?
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Wednesday, October 31, 2007
مطلوب .. ابداع جماعي
ومنذ ذلك اليوم وبفضل مجهود الكثير منكم بدأ المشروع بأخذ شكل رسمي ونحن بانتظار بعض اللمسات الأخيرة ليرى المشروع النور
ولدي طلب خاص منكم .. وهو المساهمة في اختيار شعار المشروع أو الحملة ، أسمها و رمزها .. أنا متأكدة أننا معا سنصل لأفكار مبدعة ومميزة
Name, Slogan & Logo
الشروط بسيطة .. البساطة ، التميز ، البعد عن أي نكهة دينية أو سياسية أو عرقية
الهدف .. أن تصل فكرة المسؤولية الانسانية تجاه الأطفال
من لديه موهبة الرسم أو التصوير فهو مدعو لارسال المساهمات والأفكار مباشرة الي بريدي اللكتروني وسأعرضها أدناه لتكون الهاما للآخرين
شكرا مقدما
Friday, October 05, 2007
تساؤلات رمضانية
عند تقلد السلطة أنشأ خاتمي " مركز حوار الحضارات" والذي تبنى عدة مبادرات بغرض تحفيز الحوار والتقارب بين الشعوب والثقافات والحضارات. وأحد تلك المبادرات تشجيع محاولات تطبيق الفلسفات الغربية في تفهم أو إعادة قراءة القرآن والنصوص القدسية الإسلامية. ونتج عن ذلك العديد من الدراسات والحوارات الفلسفية تحت عنوان " التفسير الرمزي للنصوص القرآنية" - الترجمة قد لا تكون دقيقة
تطورت الدراسات على أيد علماء مسلمين وبمباركة الحكومة الإيرانية آنذاك لمناقشة احتمالات التفسيرات الرمزية للقرآن وهو ليس بالجديد في الفلسفة الإسلامية. فالصوفية وغيرهم ناقشوا منذ قرون مثلا ما إذا كانت "يد الله" تشير إلى يد فعلية أم مجرد تعبير مجازي. ولكن المثير في الجدالات الإيرانية الفرنسية أن وصلت لبحث إمكانية التفسير الرمزي الكلي للقرآن بما في ذلك القصص القرآني مثل قصة آدم وحواء أو نوح وغيرها
المؤسف أن تلك الحوارات توقفت (واختفت من الانترنت) بعد استلام المحافظين مقاليد الحكم
السؤال: ماذا لو كانت قصص القرآن كلها قصص رمزية وليس توثيق مباشر لوقائع تاريخية؟ كيف سيؤثر ذلك على المفاهيم الاسلامية؟ هل سيكون لذلك أي أثر على الحياة اليومية؟ كيف؟
أول سورة نزلت على الرسول هي سورة العلق ثم القلم فالمزمل فالمدثر فالفاتحة .. الخ ، في حين أن آخر سور نزلت هي المائدة فالتوبة فالنصر التي كانت في حجة الوداع. هذا الترتيب الزمني للنزول مختلف تماما عن ترتيب السور في القرآن الذي يبدأ بالفاتحة فالبقرة فآل عمران .. الخ
السؤال: ما هو أساس ترتيب سور القرآن أن لم يكن زمن النزول؟ ومن وضع هذا الترتيب – علما بأن القرآن لم يدون إلا بعد وفاة الرسول. ؟ ولماذا؟
بعض السور خليط من آيات مدنية ومكية. مثال: سورة القلم مكية ولكن آياتها 17: 33 و 48: 50 مدنية. سورة الأنفال مدنية وآياتها 30 :36 مكية. وما تذكره كتب التاريخ أن الوحي كان يهبط على الرسول في فترات متفاوتة حسب الحاجة أو الموقف. ولا يوجد ما يشير إلى أن جبريل قد أعطى الرسول أسماء للسور.
أسئلة كثيرة هنا: من أعطى السور أسماءها؟ كيف عرف الرسول بداية السورة ونهايتها؟ كيف يمكن لنفس السورة أن تهبط في موقعين مختلفين خصوصا قبل الهجرة- مثال سورة القلم
وعشان خاطر ارتفل .. هذا ترتيب السور حسب النزول كما أهداني اياه أحد الباحثين منذ زمن بعيد. اعتذر عن الخطأ ان وجد
العلق - القلم - المزمل - المدثر - الفاتحة - المسد - التكوير - الأعلى - الليل - الفجر - الضحى - الشرح- العصر - العاديات - الكوثر - التكاثر - الماعون - الكافرون - الفيل - الفلق - الناس - الاخلاص - النجم - عبس - القدر - الشمس - البروج - التين - قريش - القارعة - القيامة- الهمزة - المرسلات - ق - البلد - الطارق - القمر - ص - الأعراف - الجن- يس - الفرقان- فاطر -مريم - طه- الواقعة- الشعراء- النمل- القصص- الاسراء- يونس- هود- يوسف- الحجر- الأنعام- الصافات- لقمان- سبأ- الرمز- غافر- فصلت - الشورى- الزخرف- الدخان - الجاثية - الاحقاق - الذاريات - الغاشية - الكهف - النحل - نوح - الابراهيم - الأنبياء- المؤمنون - السجده - الطور الملك - الحاقة - المعارج - النبأ - النازعات - الانفطار - الانشقاق- الروم - العنكبوت - المطففين - البقرة - الأنفال - آل عمران - الأحزاب - الممتحنه - النساء - الزلزلة - الحديد - محمد - الرعد - الرحمن - الانسان - الطلاق - البينة - الحشر - النور الحج - المنافقون - المجادلة - الحجرات - التحريم - التغابن - الصف - الجمعه - الفتح - المائده - التوبه - النصر
Friday, September 07, 2007
Let’s Do Something Positive !
are planning an interesting campaign to assure safe and effective help to the Iraqi orphans.
Participation in the planning is open to eveybody. If you're interested, please e-mail me.
I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of complaining about our political and social messes. I am also fed up with our narrow local focus. So, it’s time to broaden our scope and do something positive.
I don’t know Fernas, but I totally support his invitation to do something for the orphans in Iraq.
The story is not new:
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2007/06/18/eveningnews/main2946007.shtml
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/middle_east/6769077.stm
But most reactions and actions I read about are from Western societies and institutions.
Ramadan is coming .. Let’s DO something !
Friday, August 31, 2007
Deadends !!
Many parents, like myself, gave up on the Government services and turned to the privately provided services to assure our kids the best education and health services. But the government seems eager to maintain equity in suffering:
(1) Back in late June I received this e-mail as one of the parents of BBS students.
FROM: Katherine Phillips, Al-Bayan Bilingual School Middle School Deputy Principal, Kuwait
US PASSPORT NUMBER: XXXX9279 --- contact ISR if needed.
TO: Whom It May Concern
DATE: June 21, 2007
RE: Detained in Kuwait/In Fear for My Safety
I am a Middle School Vice-Principal at Al-Bayan Bilingual School in Kuwait. I have been employed in Kuwait for 6 years at the same school. One of my primary responsibilities is student discipline. On March 8, 2006, three boys in grade 5 were suspended for fighting. I interviewed the boys, met with my principal and followed normal procedure. There is no stigma here regarding suspension. Students spend the day in the office where they study, are visited by teachers, and are taken to the canteen, etc. It's a normal consequence for fighting; all students are aware of this and the procedure is clearly defined in our Parent Handbook.
In the afternoon of March 8th, I received a phone call from one of the boys' fathers, Mr. Fawaz Khalid Al Marzouq, who is a powerful man in Kuwait. He called to inform me that this situation was "personal," that he is "friends with the emir" and that he planned to "destroy" me. This conversation, which lasted about 9 minutes, was littered with profanities and threats. On March 11, 2006, the parents met with me, my principal and our director, Dr. Brian McCauley, to discuss the suspension. The father requested that if there was an issue involving his child that I would call him immediately. On April 27, 2006, I was requested to write a synopsis of events and to visit the Ministry of Education to answer questions regarding the suspension, describe the room in which the boys spent the school day and provide a copy of our handbook. In June 2006, the father transferred his children to a different private school in Kuwait. Also, we received notification from the Ministry of Education that in-school suspensions were no longer to be applied; instead, parents must be contacted to take their children home.
In February 2007, I learned that a case had been filed against me at the Jabriya Police Department in Kuwait; the charge was "illegal detainment" of his son on March 8, 2006. I answered questions in my director's presence and the Consul from the US Embassy, Mr. Sonny Busa. My lawyer was also present. The police did not suggest that there was any reason for me to be concerned as all of the questions were answered to the apparent satisfaction. On June 13, 2007, I was at the Kuwait International Airport intending to fly to Bahrain. I was stopped at immigration where I was informed that there was a case against me, pending further investigation and that a travel ban had been placed on me. I had not been informed. My lawyer had not been informed. This travel ban was placed upon me 15 months after the boy was suspended. The parent said that he would make this personal and this seems to be what he is intent upon doing.
On Saturday, June 16, 2007, I visited the American Embassy where I met with the Vice Consul, Mr. Jared Caplan, who informed me that he sympathized but could do nothing to lift the travel ban. He suggested that I get an older Kuwaiti man to appeal to Mr. Marzouq. I was told on Wednesday that my file would be transferred to another agency for review so the ban could be lifted. Five working days later, the whereabouts of my file are uncertain. I have been told that my file is in 2 different places; this seems to be a delay tactic. Why? Because I angered an influential Kuwaiti national who is at the top of the social register both locally and at the US Embassy? On I visited the office of a police inspector named Falah Al Otaibi, whose office is in Salmiya. He is a police official who was to evaluate my file and determine if I could leave or not. He stated that he didn't have my file. I visited him on June 17th and 18th. On June 18th, not five minutes after I left his office with my director, the Business Officer of my school and another school representative, I called Mr. Jared Caplan, Vice-Consul at the US Embassy to gain his insight into the situation and to see if any progress had been made to help me leave. He was completely aware of my visit to Mr. Al Otaibi's office and instructed that I not return as it "interfered."
Several Kuwaiti families are aware of my situation but they are not in a position to help or they don't want to get involved. They have ALL said that I should go to my embassy because my embassy can help me. The fact that the embassy can't seems shocking to everyone. Many people also question why this accusation from Mr. Marzouk is placed solely on me - not the school, not the principal, not the director of school. I feel that I am being used as an example because I am a single, American woman and he wants to show others that he can do what he said which is to "destroy" me. Yesterday, June 20, 2007, I received a paper from Mr. Al Otaibi's office in Salmiya which lifted the travel ban. This waiver had been granted by the Kuwait Minister of the Interior. Not long after the Minister released me, he reverted his decision at the request of the Marzouq family or his representatives. I went to the airport last night, only to learn that I couldn't leave. I am in fear for my safety. If the Embassy can't help me, then who can? I contacted the FBI in Riyad, Saudi Arabia yesterday and talked to "Mike" who couldn't give me his last name. He was non-committal but did suggest that he thought the embassy should be able to get me out. Mr. Sonny Busa has informed me that they are "working on it." That seems a little vague and I am not sure if the US Embassy completely realizes the level of danger that I feel that I am in. Why does Mr. Marzouq want me in Kuwait during the summer when no one from my school will be in country to offer their support? To make me feel vulnerable? He is well-connected and his friends are supporting his mission to damage me in any way that he can. What's next? I do not feel safe. I am not safe. I need someone from the US to acknowledge the urgency of my situation and coordinate my release. I committed no crime. I am simply the victim of "wasta" which roughly translates into "influence/pressure" at a high level.
I called some of the school officials and they confirmed the story. Many Kuwaiti politicians and businessmen tried their best to help and they all failed. Finally the matter reached the Prime Minster. He, after a long struggle, managed to get her out of the country. And rumor has it that the Father is suing the government for interfering with the Court procedures!!
Needless to say, she is not coming back and this is the reaction among the expatriates teachers’ society:
http://www.kuwaittimes.net/read_news.php?newsid=MTA4Mzg3MTM5OQ
(2) Ministry of Education insisted on spreading its success onto the private education by forcing its curriculum on those schools. So, in addition to the typical Arabic, Islamic Studies and Social Studies they have added a special curriculum for Quran. This of course had to be slotted in at the expense of Science and Math hours that gave the good schools international accreditation.
(3) Finally, the MOE became eager to share its management successes too and has announced that within the next 3 years they expect all private school to have 100% Kuwaiti Management!!!
My questions are:
1. Why?!!
2. How can we stop this mess?
3. What do I do with my kids?
Saturday, July 21, 2007
The Secret
When your thoughts are negative (e.g. fear, anxiety, depression) you tend to draw more misery to yourself. For example if you worry about illness or debt or unemployment it will come to you! Something like what the Egyptian say (اللي يخاف من الجن يطلع له). Or as someone on the DVD said “what you think about comes about”. Or, on the flip side, “what you resist persists “.
Thus the first advice is to keep feeling good and surrounding yourself with things that give you positive thoughts (كن جميلا ترى الوجود جميلا).
When you emit positive energy you will attract more positive energy from the universe and hence your reality becomes better. Pets, music and children have been shown as effective tools of changing mindset to a more positive frequency.
Two main processes play a role in playing the Law of Attraction to your advantage: Gratitude and Visualization. Gratitude (being grateful for the things you have) works in several ways, but mainly it makes you feel better by focusing on what you have rather than what you miss and hence sets your mind into a more positive mood that will attract more positive reality for you (وأن شكرتم لأزيدنكم).
MRI shows that the body cannot really distinguish between reality and imagination. If you imagine something, your brain and body will react as if it was a reality. Visualizing is the process of living your dream (or wants) because “If you are there in your mind, you will go in your body” and once you are tuned in body and mind on what you want it will materialize.
The creative process of creating your day is the basic principle of any religion: (1) Ask, (2) Believe and (3) Receive, with emphasis on Gratitude and focus on the end result and not the how’s. You can Ask in formal or informal prayers to any God you believe in or simply to the energy of the Universe or yourself. In all cases, it has to be to something you really Believe in. The belief will allow you to Receive because you know you are worth it!
This is a summary of what I got from the DVD, I will leave it to you to question and learn more.
Friday, April 20, 2007
Time for Change !
The kids and I were determined to have a great time and we did. The weather was unbelievably beautiful. I spent the day on the beach reading my book and watching the kids swimming and building their perfect little city in sand. Needless to say, I loved the book! I couldn’t put it down.
As I read, I thought “what a perfect timing!!” Then I watched the DVD, with my kids, and I was certain this was no coincident. It is time for CHANGE!
I will write in details later about both The Secret and The Zahir. But what I wanted to share with you for now is my new revelation. I was wise staying out of politics. I was smart focusing on my home and children and what really matter to ME. It was correct to assume that there is hope in everything and everybody. And I was right seeking what really makes me happy. I was on the right track and lost my way. And now the universe is conspiring to lead me back on track.
Both the book and the DVD address, through different approaches, address how we trap ourselves into patterns of thinking that bring us depression, misfortune, and anxiety. The irony is that we create these patterns in search of HAPPINESS. Once you get the courage to break these patterns, the WORLD changes.
The great thing is that this is not philosophy or psychology; it’s Quantum Physics!
I will be explaining more about that, but for now I just wanted to promise you: No more wining, no more bad news and no more “cursing the dark”. I will either light a candle, or give you a smile or simply shut up!
Tuesday, April 03, 2007
Bada3o Shabab El Kuwait :*
This is the whole thing :)
Click Here for the complete session of the Kuwait National Democratic Alliance (Tahalof)
Thursday, March 29, 2007
Friday, March 23, 2007
The Inconvenient Truth
Did you like these nature snapshots? Do you know that within your age span this is all what will be left of nature .. snapshots!
This was my first weekend without school work and tight deadlines. So I began working on many projects that have been shelved for a while. One of them was watching Al Gore Documentary on Global Warming.
I watched the whole documentary with my kids thinking “I know it all” but good educational DVD for my kids. But I was wrong!! I was shocked of how little I knew on the threat and impact of Global Warming.
The documentary basically connects the dots. Why are we having strange diseases lately like SARS and Avian Flu? Why are old and basically extinct ones like Cholera and Smallpox are coming back aggressively?
Most importantly, what is the reason behind the changes in the climate patterns, the increase of intensity and frequency of floods and tornadoes and the melting North and South Poles? Why certain insects and parasites like mosquitoes, lice and fleas are are increasing? Why are my favorite animals the Polar Bears are drowning in the North Pole?
The answer to that all is Global Warming and our conscious and unconscious contribution to it. Most scary is that the threat is no longer to the “future generations” .. the treat is to us now and here. Earth as we know it, will vanish in less than 50 years!
The good news is that this is reversible and we can do something about it. Watch the documentary and TAKE ACTION !!
Thursday, March 15, 2007
Divide and Conquer
My favorite son A. Temi, brought this article to my attention:
The Redirection: Is the Administration’s new policy benefiting our enemies in the war on terrorism? by Seymour M. Hersh.
I don’t want to spoil your fun reading it, but in short the author provides a detailed and supported account of the otherwise notion that we are being led to a bloody sectarian war to serve the interests of the US, KSA and Iran.
To tease your appetite to read the article, here are few quotes:
“The Saudis and some in the Administration have been arguing that the biggest threat is Iran and the Sunni radicals are the lesser enemies. This is a victory for the Saudi line.”
“The Administration is trying to make a case that Iran is more dangerous and more provocative than the Sunni insurgents to American interests in Iraq, when—if you look at the actual casualty numbers—the punishment inflicted on America by the Sunnis is greater by an order of magnitude,” Leverett said.
“The Saudis still see the world through the days of the Ottoman Empire, when Sunni Muslims ruled the roost and the Shiites were the lowest class,” Frederic Hof, a retired military officer who is an expert on the Middle East, told me
Nasr went on, “The Saudis have considerable financial means, and have deep relations with the Muslim Brotherhood and the Salafis”—Sunni extremists who view Shiites as apostates. “The last time Iran was a threat, the Saudis were able to mobilize the worst kinds of Islamic radicals. Once you get them out of the box, you can’t put them back.”
This time, the U.S. government consultant told me, Bandar and other Saudis have assured the White House that “they will keep a very close eye on the religious fundamentalists. Their message to us was ‘We’ve created this movement, and we can control it.’ It’s not that we don’t want the Salafis to throw bombs; it’s who they throw them at—Hezbollah, Moqtada al-Sadr, Iran, and at the Syrians, if they continue to work with Hezbollah and Iran.”
In quoting Hassan Nasrallah - Partition would leave Israel surrounded by “small tranquil states,” he said. “I can assure you that the Saudi kingdom will also be divided, and the issue will reach to North African states. There will be small ethnic and confessional states,” he said. “In other words, Israel will be the most important and the strongest state in a region that has been partitioned into ethnic and confessional states that are in agreement with each other. This is the new Middle East.”
Robert Baer, a former longtime C.I.A. agent in Lebanon, has been a severe critic of Hezbollah and has warned of its links to Iranian-sponsored terrorism. But now, he told me, “we’ve got Sunni Arabs preparing for cataclysmic conflict, and we will need somebody to protect the Christians in Lebanon. It used to be the French and the United States who would do it, and now it’s going to be Nasrallah and the Shiites.
Most members of the intelligence and diplomatic communities acknowledge Hezbollah’s ongoing ties to Iran. But there is disagreement about the extent to which Nasrallah would put aside Hezbollah’s interests in favor of Iran’s. A former C.I.A. officer who also served in Lebanon called Nasrallah “a Lebanese phenomenon,” adding, “Yes, he’s aided by Iran and Syria, but Hezbollah’s gone beyond that.”
The idea is that it is in the interest of all the big players in the region for us to break down into fighting and independent racial and religious groups. BUT, neither of those players gives a damn about us. The only thing we have to survive is our UNITY. Our unity and consolidation saved us before and will save us in the future.
Tuesday, March 06, 2007
Friday, February 09, 2007
حيوانات تجارب أم أغبياء؟
الهندسة الوراثية من أكثر المواضيع اثارة للجدل حول العالم لما لها من أثار وتوابع انسانية وصحية واقتصادية وسياسية! ورغم التاريخ المديد نسبيا لهذا العلم الا انه لم يصل بعد لمرحلة الوضوح والاستقرار خصوصا في الجوانب المتعلقة بالبحث العلمي ، اخلاقيات البحث والاستخدام ، الآثار بعيدة الأمد وغيرها من القضايا التي مازالت تحت البحث والجدل على كل المستويات
ومن أهم تطبيقات الهندسة الوراثية هو استخدامها في مجالات الزراعة وتحسين المنتجات الزراعية. اذا يقوم العلماء بتغيير جينات البذور لتتمتع بقدرة أكبر على مقاومة الحشرات والآفات الزراعية والمناخ القاسي. وحيث ان المحاصيل المعدلة جينيا لا تحتاج الصيانة المعتادة من المزارعين فانها على الأغلب أرخص ونسبيا أكبر حجما وأجمل شكلا. من اهم المحاصيل المعدلة جينيا الارز ، القمح ، الذرة والصويا وأعلاف الماشية
المشكلة ان تغيير الجينات عملية عشوائية، اذ ينجح العلماء بالتجربة والخطأ ودون دراية كاملة بنتائج التغييرعلى المدى القصير أو البعيد. كما ان العملية تخرج عن نطاق سيطرتهم حين تتلقح النباتات المعدلة بالأخرى الطبيعية بالتلقيح الطبيعي (الهواء ، الحشرات ..الخ). النتيجة كيمياء غريبة للمنتجات الزراعية لا يتعرف عليها جهازنا الهضمي أو غيره من أجهزتنا الحيوية. التجارب على فئران المختبرات تثبت ان تلك المنتجات تسبب أشكال مختلفة من الحساسية والأمراض الجليدية وأمراض المناعة والسرطان. الأخر ان تلك التغييرات الجينية قد تنتقل للبكتيريا مسببة أنواع جديدة من الميكروبات التي لا تؤثر فيها المضادات الحيوية الحالية. مما يهدد البشرية بأمراض وأوبئة لا يحمد عقباها
جماعة السلام الأخضر أجرت مسحا لأسواق الخليج مؤخرا واكتشفت العديد من المنتجات الملوثه بالذرة والقمح والأرز الملوث جينيا في أسواق الكويت والأمارات وقطر. فماذا كان رد فعل الساسة وأولي الأمر؟ الأهم ما هو رد فعل الشعوب؟ الصحافة؟ مجلس الأمة؟ حتى الآن .. لا شيء يذكر
هل وصلنا مرحلة من التخلف وعدم الاكتراث لتسبقنا الصين والهند ودول العالم التي تعيش مجاعة حقيقية في وعيها البيئي؟ هل نحن حيوانات التجارب الجدد للهندسة الوراثية؟ أم هو ببساطة جشع التجار وتواطئ الساسة؟
Friday, January 26, 2007
Way to go Jimmy!
I won’t guess much about his motives, but it is fair to say that Jimmy Carter’s latest book Palestine: Peace Not Apartheid was a definite act of courage. It is an unprecedented act of a former American President to publicly denounce the Israelis and the Israeli government. His book is a detailed account of how the Israeli government is hindering the peace process and encouraging terrorist retaliation. The book also highlights the double standards by which Israel runs its “State” and the Occupied Territory.
Not surprisingly, the Zionist Lobby in the US is going crazy over the book. He is publicly and personally attacked. He’s been labeled as anti-Semitic, terrorist and fundamentalist. Some have clearly accused him of promoting and justifying suicide bombing. For the past few weeks, there has not been a single talk show that did not attack him for the book. He actually revised the second edition of the book to delete a sentence that “might be understood as support for terrorism”.
Though the book has a clear “religious” flavor, it is a complete historical review since the Intifada. It is the first time ever that an ex-president has the guts to tell things from the “other” perspective.
I truly believe that we should show Jimmy Carter some support as opposed to the attack he’s receiving from the other side. Irrespective of his motives or history, it takes real courage to stand against the Israeli lobby at the most unpopular times.
So, I suggest that we promote the book, buy multiple copies and write to Jimmy for support at:
The Carter Center
One Copenhill
453 Freedom Parkway
Atlanta, GA 30307
E-mail: carterweb@emory.edu
Hope you enjoy the book!
Tuesday, January 23, 2007
To you ...
I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF …
you think that seeing you in pain, would not bring a tear to me!
I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF …
you think I don’t remember the first time we met!
I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF …
you don’t see the thousand ways I try to make you happy!
I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF …
you don’t realize how your smile brightens up my day!
I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF …
you have to ask me for favors!
I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF …
you think I would not be curious to know your new philosophy of life!
I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF …
you go by what I say and do not understand what I don’t say!
I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF …
you think that listening to your dreams would put me to sleep!
I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF …
you would rather keep quiet when you really wanna talk!
I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF …
you hesitate to ask me to stay back when you think we should be together!
I AM NOT YOUR FRIEND IF …
you take too much time to tell me what I mean to you!
Wednesday, January 03, 2007
أبغض الحلال
وتشير الدراسات الرسمية ان من أهم أسباب الطلاق في الكويت: الزواج المبكر ، التوقعات غير العملية من الزوج/الزوجة، ، الاختلاف على القضايا المالية والاجتماعية، تدخل الأهل، ضعف الوازع الديني، تعدد الزوجات .. الخ. وتؤكد الاحصائيات علاقة عكسية بين المؤهلات الدراسية ومعدلات الطلاق. فكلما انخفض المؤهل الدراسي زادت نسبة الطلاق. كما تتمحور الدراسات (ان جاز تسميتها بدراسات) حول الآثار السلبية التفليدية لهذه الظاهرة على المدى القصير والبعيد دون أي تعمق في المتغيرات أو اضافة متغيرات على الاحصائيات للبحث عن علاقات جديدة بين المتغيرات والمسببات. مثال: ما دور التكنولوجيا ؟ الانترنت والأقمار الصناعية؟ تشير الدراسات الصحية لزيادة معدلات العقم وانتشار الأمراض الجنسية. كيف يؤثر ذلك على الحياة الزوجية؟ هل هنالك علاقة؟ ماذا عن الزواج المسيار؟ الشذوذ الجنسي؟ المخدرات؟ للأسف لا يوجد بيانات كافية لدراسة العلاقات بين تلك المتغيرات وان كان لها أثر في ظاهرة الطلاق
من منظور آخر يمكن أن يكون الطلاق مؤشرا صحيا على استقلال المرأة وتحررها من القيود الاجتماعية التقليدية المتمثلة بالزوج أو الأب. فمن المرجح أن تعود نسبة من زيادة الطلاق لتطور أوضاع المرأة وتحررها النسبي مما يجعلها أكثر قدرة على مواجهة الظلم و/أو الاستغلال والمطالبة بالطلاق في حال الانتقاص من حقوقها أو حقوق أبناءها. ولكن هذه مجرد فرضيات لا يمكن اثباتها أو انكارها لعدم وجود بيانات وافية في هذا المجال
ومهما كانت أسباب الطلاق الا انه من النادر أن يحدث بشكل حضاري أو عقلاني. ففي معظم الأحيان يستخدم الزوجان أو أحدهما اجراءات الطلاق للانتقام من الآخر أو لرد الاعتبار وذلك بالتلاعب في قضايا المؤخر أو الحضانة أو النفقة وغيرها من اجراءات الطلاق
الأهم والأخطر في قضية الطلاق هم الأبناء. فسواء كان الطلاق مبررا أم لا فالابناء ضحايا أبرياء في هذه العملية لابد من حمايتهم خلال وبعد مباحثات ومفاوضات الطلاق. فمن الضروري ألا يتحول الأبناء لوسيلة ضغط أو ورقة مفاوضات. كما يفضل ابعادهم عن تفاصيل المفاوضات والضغوطات الاجتماعية والقانونية خلال فترة الانفصال
الأبناء هم الأبطأ في التأقلم مع فترة ما بعد الطلاق. فقد يجد كلا الوالدين حياة جديدة وقد يسامحا بعضهما ولكن يبقى الأبناء – بغض النظر عن أعمارهم – متعلقين بأمل عودة الوالدين لبعضهما وعودة المياه لمجاريها. لذا يتوجب على الواليدن التعامل مع ذلك بحساسية ووعي شديدين. وهو أمر يتطلب تدريب وقراءة واستشارات نفسية نادرا ما يتوفر أي منها في الكويت أو العالم العربي
لذا فمن الضروري عند دراسة ظاهرة الطلاق في الكويت ان يخرج البحث عن الاطار التقليدي وان تدخل متغيرات كثيرة في الاعتبار. الأهم هو توفير الأدوات اللازمة لكافة الأطراف المعنية للتعامل مع واقع الطلاق وبالأخص الأطفال – الأدوات الأهم هي ورش العمل والكتب والاخصائيين القادرين على بناء المهارات اللازمة لتخطي الطلاق وبناء حياة جديدة على أسس صحيحة وصحية